Ask any teenager or senior citizen, “What is love?” and their answers reflect a similar influence. Love involves feelings — romanticized by music, literature, and media. We all yearn to recreate that intimacy based on what seems so ideal. Our deepest longings shape what defines love — fervor (passionate), flawless (perfect), and fulfillment (joy). When we express love, we develop a strong emotional attachment, anticipating our love to be returned. What do I receive out of the relationship? What’s my level of contentment? Our feelings focus upon discovering that one individual who satisfies all our heart’s desires. Sadly, what nourished and warmed our love for one season often withers and grows cold. “The course of true love never did run smooth.
What is Love – The Cost of giving
What is love if not costly? Real love demands sacrifice that can’t be found in self-centeredness. You can give without loving, but you can never love without giving. Sacrificial love requires that we give what we value most: our hearts, minds, souls, and strength. Real love does not always follow our natural inclinations; it is not an impulse from feelings. This is the whole thing people get love distorted and not look at love in its true if you can keep love as a blank piece of paper then there is no expectations on love or on the other person because us humans have imperfections we place conditions of how he and she could be towards us. It does not work with control, expectations, love can be only understood with actions how the person responds to you and treats you often you are waiting for a love one to relies that you are there and for them to wake up from the wrong doings so that they may see your kind heartiness and love you back the way you love them.
It does not work this way you have to remember every human has free will they have choices in my experience with dealing with all walks of life I have had so many people say I love him and her and because they have to wait for the person to be ready to move forward they give up mid stream so they did not love the person at all. You see if you want to be with someone you have to take into account are they ready to be with you. Good question isn’t it have you thought that this person that you want to be with is still trying to work themselves out and because they are not with you then comes the control he or she should be doing this if they Love me sad really isn’t it then the anger comes in and you feel a fool that you where waiting and that he or she could have moved onto someone else in the process and you believed they loved you it did not say that they didn’t this is all to do with free will they are not ready to be with you and may at that time it does not mean they will not be with you either but everything is taken serious and personal and having expectations this is where hurt comes in sadly to say and you become a wreck.
This can be avoided if you can cruise in life and trust that no matter what everything will work out how it is meant to be from the beginning of time there is a book of the living and a book of the dead everything about you has been recorded before you came down to the planet the people you meet the things that you do everything and how much love you give out the problem is you cannot give love and expect something it has to be free if you put a price on love this will not work for you and you will fail every time and you will not be happy in a relationship or at your work even to the point you will not have any friends. You need to give love for free the same way the universe gives to you FREE.
If you need any help I am more than happy to help you understand why things are not happening for you and how you can turn this around.