{"id":958,"date":"2015-07-04T04:15:00","date_gmt":"2015-07-04T04:15:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.lifereader.co.uk\/articles\/?p=958"},"modified":"2015-07-04T04:15:00","modified_gmt":"2015-07-04T04:15:00","slug":"fed-up-fix-it","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lifereader.co.uk\/articles\/fed-up-fix-it\/","title":{"rendered":"Fed up \u2013 Fix it"},"content":{"rendered":"

Don\u2019t let these common myths block your path to happiness!<\/p>\n

1. I\u2019ll be Happier Tomorrow<\/strong><\/p>\n

It\u2019s easy to fall into the trap of thinking happiness will happen once you have achieved all your goals, but if you do that you will end up concentrating so hard on how much better life could be that it will stop you appreciating what you have already got.<\/p>\n

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How to fix this blockage:<\/strong><\/p>\n

Postponing happiness to a future date means you will never enjoy it. By all means aspire to greater things, but enjoy every minute along the way. Enjoy your food, smell the roses, pat a cat, dog or whatever it takes for you to enjoy the day.<\/p>\n

2. It Won\u2019t Last<\/strong><\/p>\n

Are you too afraid to let yourself be happy because you think life will bring you crashing back down? You need to realize that if you don\u2019t take a risk, you will end up missing out. Life is a gamble and you need to be bold and go for what you want. Just because you were hurt in a previous relationship or let down in another way, doesn\u2019t mean the same thing will surely happen again.<\/p>\n

How to fix this blockage:<\/strong><\/p>\n

Stop expecting the worst, and think positively. If you expect the worst, it tends to happen. This is often comes as self-sabotage in relationships or perhaps at a job interview and the interviewer picks up your negativity. Remember that it is better to have been happy for a short while than stuck in a familiar, but depressing, situation. You might as well enjoy the good times you already have.<\/p>\n

3. He has to Change<\/strong><\/p>\n

Example: Sue a young mother of two, had convinced herself that if her husband, Steve, was just a bit more ambitious, worked harder and secured a promotion, she would have everything. However, if, like Simon, your partner is perfectly content with his life and job the way they are, spending your life waiting for him to change is setting yourself up to feel let down when he doesn\u2019t alter his life.<\/p>\n

3a. They have Got to Change<\/strong>
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Making your happiness conditional on someone else means you are avoiding taking responsibility for your own feelings and ambitions. Of course it is only fair to expect your partner to do their fair share of the housework or to be affectionate towards you, but you have to decide whether this is an important change that could make your relationship better. Perhaps you are just using it as an excuse. If a partner or friend does not make you happy, either learn to live with that person or decide if you want him or her in your life at all.<\/p>\n