{"id":1779,"date":"2016-10-24T01:38:11","date_gmt":"2016-10-24T01:38:11","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.lifereader.co.uk\/articles\/?p=1779"},"modified":"2016-10-24T01:39:06","modified_gmt":"2016-10-24T01:39:06","slug":"the-rights-we-have-in-our-relationships","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lifereader.co.uk\/articles\/the-rights-we-have-in-our-relationships\/","title":{"rendered":"The Rights We Have In Our Relationships"},"content":{"rendered":"

By Sylvia<\/strong>:<\/em><\/span><\/span><\/a> Are you giving up your true self for your Relationships?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Society funnily enough dictates how\u00a0we\u00a0should act, especially in an intimate\u00a0relationship. The only difference these days is the players\u00a0have changed.\u00a0 It is not just about Women.\u00a0 Men tend to lose themselves in intimate relationships as well.\u00a0 A lot of more so these days can contribute to home life or if they are with a controlling partner.\u00a0\u00a0Our\u00a0wants and needs are pushed aside to keep other people happy.\u00a0 By knowing your rights, you\u00a0have\u00a0in an intimate\u00a0relationship\u00a0this can help you to stop loosing yourself as you go.<\/p>\n

\"sylvia3\"<\/a> When<\/em>\u00a0we\u00a0<\/em>don\u2019t<\/em>\u00a0have\u00a0our\u00a0<\/em>basic rights,<\/em>\u00a0our\u00a0<\/em>sense of self is undermined. Instead of growing and developing in relationships,<\/em>\u00a0we\u00a0<\/em>feel trapped and stunted. In some cases, denying these rights is a first step to a pattern of abuse.<\/em><\/p>\n

While these rights a valid for everyone women in general often find them undermined.\u00a0\u00a0We\u00a0are socialized to prioritize others over ourselves.\u00a0 For anyone who is having this issue I suggest reading the rights below and find the courage to stand up for them.\u00a0 Not just in intimate relationships, but with your friends and family as well. It doesn\u2019t matter who the person is your rights should be heard and validated.<\/p>\n

You<\/strong>\u00a0have\u00a0<\/strong>the<\/strong>\u00a0right\u00a0<\/strong>to express needs and<\/strong>\u00a0have\u00a0<\/strong>them validated.<\/strong><\/p>\n

A\u00a0relationship\u00a0consists of a compromise between your needs and those of everyone else.\u00a0 You should always\u00a0have\u00a0the\u00a0right\u00a0to express yourself if you are not comfortable with something help people being able to understand and support you if needed. There is a huge difference between I don\u2019t think I can do that for you and No, I am not interested expending my energy to help you.<\/p>\n

You<\/strong>\u00a0have\u00a0<\/strong>the<\/strong>\u00a0right\u00a0<\/strong>to a balance of give and take.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Often, there are times when you may\u00a0have\u00a0dropped everything to help a friend, a partner or a family member out. You\u00a0have\u00a0been there and supported them only to find in your time of need that that person is not available to you or will only give a little but expects a lot in return.\u00a0 This is unfair and very unbalanced.\u00a0 You\u00a0have\u00a0every\u00a0right\u00a0to ask for the same in return even if it takes some work and adjustment for them to learn how to do this.<\/p>\n

You<\/strong>\u00a0have\u00a0<\/strong>the<\/strong>\u00a0right\u00a0<\/strong>to<\/strong>\u00a0have\u00a0<\/strong>my feelings heard.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Your feelings are your responsibility as are everyone else\u2019s, but that does not mean you must deal with all on your own.\u00a0 Regardless of them being rational or not you\u00a0have\u00a0the\u00a0right\u00a0to be heard and heard with compassion.\u00a0 Sometimes you are not looking for solutions sometimes all you want is someone to listen and respond in a way that will help you feel better.<\/p>\n

You<\/strong>\u00a0have\u00a0<\/strong>the<\/strong>\u00a0right\u00a0<\/strong>to ask for sexual pleasure and having boundaries respected.<\/strong><\/p>\n

When you are in a sexual\u00a0relationship\u00a0you do\u00a0have\u00a0the\u00a0right\u00a0to ask for pleasure.\u00a0 Often at times\u00a0we\u00a0concentrate on the other person\u2019s pleasure and put ours aside.\u00a0 Everyone has boundaries, but that does not mean\u00a0we\u00a0can\u2019t ask to explore and compromise and also\u00a0have\u00a0the boundaries respected at the same time.<\/p>\n

You<\/strong>\u00a0have\u00a0<\/strong>the<\/strong>\u00a0right\u00a0<\/strong>to interests and Relationships outside a Partnership.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Your life is your own, regardless of who you are with.\u00a0 You\u00a0have\u00a0the\u00a0right\u00a0to explore new interests and grow new relationships outside of a partnership.\u00a0 When you\u00a0have\u00a0a partner, a family member or a friend complains or belittles your outside relationships and interests come across as very insecure and really need to learn boundaries.\u00a0 You\u00a0have\u00a0the\u00a0right\u00a0to be supported in your outside interests.<\/p>\n

You<\/strong>\u00a0have\u00a0<\/strong>the<\/strong>\u00a0right\u00a0<\/strong>to be consulted on Decisions that affect you.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Whether it be family, friend or partner, you\u00a0have\u00a0the\u00a0right\u00a0to be informed of anything that may\u00a0have\u00a0an impact on your life. When in a partnership this can be more defined then friends or family.\u00a0 It\u2019s nice to be with someone who you can talk to and make decisions with.\u00a0 Ultimately, there will be a compromise somewhere as a decision will impact your life, but you\u00a0have\u00a0the\u00a0right\u00a0to\u00a0have\u00a0a say how it goes and the outcome of it.<\/p>\n

You<\/strong>\u00a0have\u00a0<\/strong>the<\/strong>\u00a0right\u00a0<\/strong>to be shown respect both in private and in public.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Disagreements in a\u00a0relationship\u00a0happen, but even so you\u00a0have\u00a0the\u00a0right\u00a0to not be mocked or belittled in a way that is hurtful.\u00a0 You should not feel like they are ashamed of you or put you down, talk about you or ignore you while out in public.\u00a0\u00a0 When this happens and you\u00a0have\u00a0asked them to stop the other person should do as asked and vice versa.<\/p>\n

You<\/strong>\u00a0have\u00a0<\/strong>the<\/strong>\u00a0right\u00a0<\/strong>to end a<\/strong>\u00a0relationship\u00a0<\/strong>that does not make you happy.<\/strong><\/p>\n

If you are in a\u00a0relationship, friendship or even with a family member you\u00a0have\u00a0the\u00a0right\u00a0to end it if you feel it is not for your higher good.\u00a0 You also\u00a0have\u00a0the\u00a0right\u00a0to end these relationships without repercussions.\u00a0 Unfortunately, this does not always happen, but in the end, it\u2019s your choice, your decision and regardless it should be respected. Your self-worth is more important than being somewhere that is not helping you in life.<\/p>\n

There are many rights that\u00a0we\u00a0all\u00a0have\u00a0but these are just few.\u00a0 If you\u00a0have\u00a0the courage to ask for these then you can life can become a lot easier.\u00a0 For the ones who don\u2019t respect your rights then by asking for them you will know, and move them on.<\/p>\n

Sometimes by asking for these rights\u00a0we\u00a0can also isolate ourselves, but in the end you will ultimately know the ones who will respect your rights and help you along the way.<\/p>\n

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