{"id":1580,"date":"2016-08-04T04:26:06","date_gmt":"2016-08-04T04:26:06","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.lifereader.co.uk\/articles\/?p=1580"},"modified":"2016-11-03T01:39:16","modified_gmt":"2016-11-03T01:39:16","slug":"how-to-tell-when-someone-is-not-that-into-you","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lifereader.co.uk\/articles\/how-to-tell-when-someone-is-not-that-into-you\/","title":{"rendered":"How To Tell When Someone Is Not That Into You"},"content":{"rendered":"

By Esther<\/strong>:<\/a><\/em><\/span><\/span> Hi Folks, I am sure most of you have heard the term \u2018HE IS JUST THAT NOT INTO YOU\u201d but I would like to point out that this type of behaviour is not done by men only. Dr. Ian Kerner wrote a counter-part book for the ladies called \u2018BE HONEST \u2013 YOU ARE NOT THAT INTO HIM EITHER\u201d. In that title is some Golden Words \u2013 BE HONEST! \u2013 don\u2019t lead another person on, nor waste their time or even your own.<\/p>\n

So what are the signs that someone is Not That Into You?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Re on \u2013 listed below:<\/p>\n

First \u2013 Clue \u2013 He\/She is always busy<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"esther3\"<\/a> Unless you are a medical in intern who works 80 hours per week, nobody is that busy ALL THE TIME. If someone you are dating seems to be busy every time you call them or try to make a plan with them, then there\u2019s something not quite right. Either they\u2019re trying to avoid you or you are WAY Down in their priority list or even this person could be in another relationship. If this individual truly likes you, they would make time for you. If not! Then something else will always be more important than being with you.<\/p>\n

Second Clue – The Ex-factor<\/strong><\/p>\n

If your \u2018person of interest\u2019 talks about their ex unceasingly, on how they miss them or even if it\u2019s about how bad the relationship was, it means that he or she has still not moved on and is emotionally hooked to their past at some level . There is no future with this individual because he\/she is still stuck in the past. It is possible that this individual maybe be using you as a distraction.<\/p>\n

Third Clue \u2013 Off-On communication<\/strong><\/p>\n

When someone is taking two days to reply to your text and when you try asking them the reason, they act like everything in the world is alright and that you\u2019re over thinking, you may want to re-consider this relationship. Don\u2019t keep accepting the excuse that they missed your call or didn\u2019t see your message, etc. If a person really likes you, they try and keep the communication strong; they\u2019re scared of losing you.<\/p>\n

Fourth Clue \u2013 The Conversations you have with each other are hardly meaningful<\/strong><\/p>\n

Meaningful conversation allows you into their world, their life. Therefore, making themselves vulnerable. A person who doesn\u2019t see any potential in the relationship will be not interested in your life nor will they be willing to expose their life to you. There are no significant conversations because they have it in their mind that this won\u2019t last long, so why put in so much effort.<\/p>\n

Fifth Clue \u2013 Their Body Language.<\/strong><\/p>\n

When someone doesn\u2019t make eye contact while talking, doesn\u2019t laugh at your jokes, has their torso facing away from you or generally maintains a distance then their body, this person is telling you loud and clear that they\u2019re not that attracted to you.<\/p>\n

Sixth Clue \u2013 They are \u2018not ready for commitment\u2019<\/strong><\/p>\n

The person you are dating keeps suggesting that they\u2019re not ready for a relationship, or he\/she is building their career or even just trying to focus on themselves; only means that they don\u2019t want to give you any hopes and lead you on. If they don\u2019t want to commit, but also want to keep you \u2018around\u2019 maybe just as an option, then you need to stop settling and wasting your time, unless you\u2019re a no-commitment person too.<\/p>\n

Seventh Clue \u2013 Do not go out public with you or announce your relationship with them to their nearest and dearest.<\/strong><\/p>\n

He\/She does not date you out in a public place. It is a case of your place or mine? This is what is referred to as a Closet Relationship.<\/p>\n

Also, there is no sign of you or your relationship on any of their social media, along with a failure to acknowledge being with you in public. This individual always tries to keep you away from their friends and family even after this person has been in your life for a while.<\/p>\n

Eighth Clue – You exist only after midnight<\/strong><\/p>\n

Do you try to get in touch with this individual all day but only hear from them later at night and it\u2019s usually a case of \u2018your place or mine?\u2019 or something similar, which looms around sexual interest? A person who calls you only when they are physically needy, then it\u2019s obvious where you stand with them, don\u2019t expect any serious progress. This is not even a relationship, but a Booty Call only.<\/p>\n

Ninth Clue \u2013 You Hear Excuses Constantly.<\/strong><\/p>\n

All you hear from this person is a lot of excuses on why he\/she didn\u2019t call when they said they would, or why they cancelled last minute, or why they didn\u2019t take you to their office party. This appears to be the norm in this relationship and they expect you to be okay with it. Do yourself a favour and stop buying all the excuses and you cancel this relationship \u2013 refuse to be strung along like this.<\/p>\n

Final Clue \u2013 You Feel Constantly Confused on where you Stand with this Relationship.<\/strong><\/p>\n

You have been giving this person the benefit of the doubt, making excuses for them and reassuring yourself that it\u2019s all in your head. When you are with a person who gives you mixed signals, you will always find yourself confused and wondering, going back and forth from loves me to loves me not. So, save yourself the heartbreak and trust your instinct. You have an inner Alarm Bell within yourself called your Intuition and this will save you time and time again, if!!!! You listen to it. This applies to everything and not just relationship issues. Your Inner Alarm Bell goes off \u2013 Believe it. It could even save your life but going off and saying \u201cDo not Get on that Bus\u201d.<\/p>\n

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