>Share this Article on Facebook<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\nIf it is a new relationship or a long term one, to keep it balanced, healthy, to keep the \u2018spark alive\u2019 and to keep your new partner interested, it is wise check in with your self:<\/p>\n
– Make sure you are keeping up with your self care routine (exercise, nature time, healthy eating, sleeping enough)<\/p>\n
– Keep in contact with friends and family<\/p>\n
– Continue your hobbies (if you don\u2019t have any, it is time to find what makes your heart sing! What do you do in your spare time? What do you LOVE to do?)<\/p>\n
Why is it important to keep up with these? When you first meet someone, it can feel like your whole world changes (usually it does!) You have found someone you want to be with, to spend our life with even and you fall in love. Relationships go through different stages. Of course when you first meet someone you want to spend time with them, yet to keep \u2018your life\u2019, keeps you and the relationship in balance. You can cancel self-care routines to spend time with this person, yet if you do this constantly, you will lose yourself in the relationship. If there is a disagreement, you fall completely apart and it is like the rug has been pulled out from under your feet. Yet, if you keep up with \u2018your life\u2019 meaning your self-care routine, keeping in contact with friends and family and continuing with your hobbies, that is your life line, not the other person, which unbalances the relationship when you rely on them to meet all your needs. <\/p>\n
A partner in relationship, is not meant to be your be all and end all. Yes, you need support from them and give them support in return, but you also need to be okay with them not being able to be there for you. If they are going through big changes in work, or the workload has suddenly increased, they are going to be less available energetically and this can feel like a \u2018hole\u2019 and you begin wonder what they are feeling for you. Keep up with \u2018your life\u2019 routines and then create time and space to have a conversation with them about how they are feeling, what they are going through – LISTEN. Then share what you are feeling for them, what you need. Then, most important, how can you work as a team, to create time together, so you both feel supported and loved in the relationship again.<\/p>\n